Tuesday, January 20, 2009

IN LOVING MEMORY

This past Saturday afternoon Dave's older brother, Rusty, took his own life. He has been depressed but we had no idea how bad it had gotten. He was holding down a job and had an apartment. He had gone into work last week sick and decided to go home at half shift. When he went back the next day he was fired. I guess they were laying people off anyways and this was their way of doing it to Rusty. Then when he got to his apartment there was an eviction notice on the door. Dave and I didn't know any of this till we got to the hospital. He has had a pretty hard life and though a lot of it was caused by the decisions he made, he was still a big part of our family.
He was a really good uncle to our kids, and tried to be a good brother. I hope that he is finding peace now.
I hope that people will not judge his actions to take his life. He had to be feeling pretty desolate and alone to do something so drastic. He is a child of God and God is the only one who can know what was in his heart.
I feel so bad that I was critical of him at times, but Dave stood by him every step of the way. We loaned him money when we could and got him groceries if he needed it.
He will be greatly missed, and I hope that my family can take this and learn from it. I want us to be a more caring, thoughtful, service minded, and closer family.
Those who have shared their condolences already we so appreciate it. We love you all!
I hope this didn't sound to rambled but you know me and my thoughts!!?!

11 comments:

Kristal and Jason said...

Tell Dave that we love him and that we are thinking and praying for all of you. Love you guys!

Francie said...

never really sure what to say when someone looses someone they love but just know that our thoughts and prayers are with you guys right now and that we wish you sunnier days ahead.

T and L Morris Family said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss! Hang in there and thinking of you and your family

THE CAVEY CLAN said...

Wendy, I'm so sorry for you loss. My husbands Grandpa told me something once that just was a light bulb for me in this matter. He said when someone takes their own life, they won't be judged like the rest of us because they are in a different mind set (I'm not sure how else to put it). It just made sense to me as I have always struggled after losing someone close to me in the same manner at such a young age. I hope you all find peace in this time and we will keep you in our prayers! Much love, Jolyn

KaNdRa and JaReD said...

We love you guys and we know that you did everything you could. Hang in there:)

Dawna Greer said...

There will always be an empty spot for him in your lives but as you say, perhaps good can come out of it as you draw closer as a family. We love you all and want you to know our prayers and thoughts are with you.

The Gwynns said...

I hope that you guys are all doing well considering the event. Give Dustin my condolences, he was always a good friend. You guys are such a great family. I will keep you in my prayers.

DeAnne Baum said...

I'm sorry for you families loss. You will be in our thoughts and prayers. XOXO

aprilhoyt said...

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

tommy said...

Thank God for the incomprehensible gift we have in his Only Begotten Son, and the mercy he extends to all of us. I know that He sees all things and that he can bring peace and comfort to all for he said, "Behold, I am Jesus he who was prepared from the foundation of the world to redeem my people. Behold, I am Jesus Christ. I am the Father and the Son. In me shall all mankind have life, and that eternally..." (Ether 3:14)

I pray the Lord's fondest blessings on all who have been burdened by this tragedy. God bless you my dear friends!

Donna/Mom said...

Wendy,
I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter how people go, there passing always hurts. My brother did not die a heros death but I loved him no matter what and he left a pain in my heart. He was loved and so was Daves brother, Rusty. They are always loved no matter how they lived or died. We just don't know what people are going through in this life. How can we when they don't always tell us. We can only do our best and leave the rest up to our Father in Heaven. Please know that I love you and your family and you are in my prayers.